And I understand how much of a burden it can feel like to keep a big secret, especially from a best friend.”īut before we discuss your options and responsibilities here, BFD, let’s get our terms straight: If by “young boy models” you mean teenage boys past puberty but under the age of consent, then your friend’s father’s behavior is icky and inappropriate – but it is not, by itself, evidence that he’s a pedophile. “I know many people wonder what to do if they suspect someone is sexually attracted to children. Michael Seto, director of forensic rehabilitation research at the Royal Ottawa Health Care Group and an expert on pedophilia and sexual offending. “I’m sympathetic to BFD’s concerns,” said Dr. I can only imagine the ramifications this news would have on him and his family. So now I’ve gone from wanting to warn this guy that he may be accidentally outing himself by not knowing how apps work to feeling morally obligated to tell my friend that his dad is into dudes and might be a pedophile. I don’t want to jump to conclusions, but the evidence is there. Not only has he been liking pictures of younger looking men, he’s also been liking and following accounts of very young boy models.
I thought about warning him that his activity is public, but then I saw more. At first I was worried, not because he might be gay or bisexual, but because he may still be “in the closet.” He’s married, with a son (my friend), and to my knowledge, if he is bisexual or gay, nobody knows. I don’t think he realizes that anyone who follows him can see that activity. I noticed over the past week or so that he has been following, liking, and commenting on a lot of Instagram pictures of young gay men. Recently, I realized he might not know how Instagram works. He’s retired and spends most of his day posting memes on Facebook and Instagram. My best friend’s father is an avid user of social media.